They may not be looking for another serious relationship.
Sure, this is an obvious realization, but we still manage to skirt over it. Treating them like damaged goods is never okay.
As with anyone new, you want to be appropriate, polite and kind. When they want to talk about their last relationship and share with you, they will. They know how to be a girlfriend or boyfriend and that instinct automatically kicks in.
It bothers me that he was once engaged to someone else! - relationship advice
Their ex might still be in their life and the only way to approach that is to trust them. If they say nothing is going on, assuming otherwise will just end up adding unnecessary strain. Spend time together one-on-one instead of rushing them out to meet all your friends at a crowded bar.
Be open to them needing to go slower, but make your expectations clear. He is older than me and 5 years ago he was engaged. They ended up not getting married because she wasn't ready to give up her life of partying, as he says.
They haven't spoken in 5 years but sometimes when she comes up in conversation it bothers me to no end that he was once engaged. Is this normal or am I being over dramatic? Feel free to be blunt! Fancy yourself as an agony aunt?
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Sitemap It bothers me that he was once engaged to someone else! My OT has been married, engaged and is still in contact with both of them now and again. There is no problem because these relationships are in his past. You just have to move past it.